So, I am driving along on the Highway and I am thinking about what I am going to do when I get home.  The sun is shining, the temp is around 65, the birds are singing, all is well on the ranch!  As so often happens, my mind starts to wander to the various little pockets of interest I have.  The whole drive home I was thinking about all the things I should be doing i.e. laundry, clean the house; and all the things I wanted to do ~ go for a nature walk, take pictures of the scenery, tend to my roses, play catch with the dogs, paint the gas tank, work on my Spanish, work on my website……  

I could go on and on with the multitude of interests I have in things that have nothing in common at all.  I find it intriguing that I ever had a successful career in corporate arena.  After all, I was interested in so many different professions, accounting, sales, customer service, programming, marketing, etc…   As it would happen, I just “fell” into the quality path and it seemed to fit.  But I can still remember each and every time a boss or interviewer asked me the dreaded, “where do you want to be in 5 years” question. 

Where do I want to be in 5 years?  Asking an adder that question is like asking a baby who the next president is going to be.  Are you serious???  The pressure immediately starts fogging the mind, mumbles start coming out of our mouths, we are still wondering how we got here right now, let along try to figure out where we want to be in 5 years.   

Quite frankly, I had no idea where I wanted to be in a week.  I was floating along on my one person boat out in the ocean of life.  My little boat would float here and there and I would stop for a while and hang out and then get back in my little boat to float to the next place; never knowing what was next.  It didn’t bother me one bit that I didn’t know what tomorrow would bring, in fact, I didn’t want to know, I preferred it to be a surprise. 

Life was so much easier without goals, after-all, if you never have goals, you don’t have to worry about not hitting them.  If you don’t have the pressure of hitting goals, you can focus on the job at hand, whatever it may be.  I never liked having goals.  I was so much better at actually hitting a goal when I didn’t have one!!   

And others I worked with thought I was crazy.  How could you not have goals?  Where did you want to be working?  What job did you want to be doing?  How much money did you want to be making?  HOLY CRAP!  Enough with the questions already!! We don’t all have to be the same.  I prefer to not formalize goals.  I like them to be fluid.  I like to know that I can change them if they don’t fit anymore.   

When you have ADHD, you find strategies that work for you and you use them.  It doesn’t really matter what others think, if it works for you, that is all that you should care about.  I tell my daughter that all the time.  If it works for her, that is all that matters.  I try to impart to her that being different is far better than being the same.  After all, how boring would it be if we were all the same?  So I say “Being different is the new black!!!”    Let your different shine!!  Let your different be seen!  Let your different be free and don’t worry about the rest of it! 

Namaste!